I separated from my ex-husband in Feb 2024

” I had undertaken lots of counselling, therapy, hypnotherapy, exercise etc anything to try and make some sort of sense as to how I was ending up going through a divorce after 29 years.

I use Tiktok and had been searching various things linked to narcissism (my counsellor had told me that my ex was a narcissist). Kellie showed up on my feeds for the first time around April 2025. Even after 15 months of different interventions I was still feeling lost, lonely, grief stricken, angry, jealous, resentful and unable to accept what was happening to me. I thought I was a strong professional woman who could get through anything….and I wasn’t!

I found Kellie’s feeds warm, informative and heartfelt. I liked the way that she came across. I went onto her website and had a look at what she does. I still didn’t do anything about it; I would just browse every now and again and listen to her on Tiktok. I got to a point where I was really struggling with my break up. I felt that I should be coping better and that I needed someone who truly understood narcissism and had ‘walked my path’. I have friends who have gone through divorce and after 12 months were coming out the other side happy and ready to move forward. I questioned why I wasn’t the same. I felt a failure. I knew I had to do something about the way I was feeling, but I was scared that maybe it was me and that I would never feel ‘normal’ again.

I contacted Kellie and had a call with her to discuss what she does and how we could work together. I was very nervous but also pinning my hopes on the fact that someone might understand how I was feeling. From the very first meeting Kellie was warm, supportive, empathetic and the biggest thing for me was that she understood what I was going through.

She made me understand narcissism, how I had ended up in a marriage with a narcissist and most importantly that everything that had happened wasn’t my fault. For years I had been made to feel that I was the problem and I felt completely broken down with it all. Kellie gave me the insight into narcissistic relationships and the impact they have on everyone including my family; not just me.

She gave me so many different tools to help me – visualisations, tapping, circle of power etc. all of which I am still using. She also challenged me on some areas – not in a bad way, but a way that made me think. I have a goal that I am working towards. I know that I will achieve that goal. Before this journey, I never thought it was possible, it is now.

My journey with Kellie is that of a butterfly. I feel like I started as a caterpillar – surviving, moving slowly, weighed down by a toxic relationship. Kellie’s work became my cocoon. It was uncomfortable at times, even painful, because healing meant breaking down old beliefs and confronting wounds. I have now emerged as a butterfly carrying the wisdom from my journey. I am lighter, freer and able to see the world from a higher perspective. I can soar on my own terms.

If you’re even the slightest bit curious about Kellie’s work and how she can support you, have a chat with her. You won’t regret it. One of my friends at the weekend told me that she was so proud of me; that I inspired her to do better, be better and reach for more every day. That has come from working with Kellie.

Kellie has been compassionate in holding my pain, insightful in helping me understand myself and empowering in guiding me toward freedom and growth.

Thank you, Kellie, from the bottom of my heart, I feel ‘normal’ again.